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June 27, 2005
Infuriating
“Professional” is a word many will conveniently use to preach but not all are real practitioners of the word.
And seriously, coming from someone who has been a professional for 30 odd years, lambasting his subordinate by using the word “brainless” demeans everything about that person and his career. There are 1,001 ways to convey a message but why the need to go all personal?
Or that you use a meeting as a platform to inflate your ego (and your oh-so-high-status) while calling into question the credibility of another person’s specialization when you yourself know that you do not have the moral right to brag because you are not an expert in that specialized area to begin with. Having access to knowledge of 1% of that area does not make you an expert. What makes it all the more worse is the fact that that another person was not there at the meeting to defend himself.
I am not saying that I am not an idiot, but sometimes, the stuff that people spew from their mouths amazes me. These coming from the orifices of people who will not think twice when calling themselves “professionals”.
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One of the things that remained in my mind throughout the years is the constant need to do at least a bit of give-and-take in any relationship, be it between friends, amongst housemates and the like. One of my housemates during my undergraduate days would lament about the dearth of considerate behaviour exercised by people these days. Or that there are proper ways of doing things, so that one will not come across as being bad mannered.
A relationship or a friendship cannot be sustained if, on one side, the policy is simply to take, take, take and then run away, leaving the one who gave, gave and gave flabbergasted (at first) before feeling cheated. As much as making new friends to widen one’s social circle is really a good thing (if the intentions are sincere and genuine) and losing old friends are a necessary fact of life, at the very least work towards a closure for both parties and not leave the other person hanging on the other side wondering what had hit them before you decide to slam the door on them.
Last but not least, words are very cheap these days. So say what you mean only when you mean it and not toss it flippantly in the direction of that other person in the heat of it or when you are on an emotional high just because you “felt” like doing that at that moment. If you are not sincere about it, don’t spout it.
Posted by D W at June 27, 2005 04:18 PM
Comments
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Posted by: kayne at June 27, 2005 10:14 PM